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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Will DH help you in setting limits with your kids. "I know aunt and uncle larlo are going to be visiting, but you all have stuff to do tomorrow. Hector, at 7:30, you are going to your room to study. Hester and Horatio, you are going to bed at the regular time so you are rested for tomorrow." I guess I don't understand why you can't have dinner with them, socialize for a bit, and then leave your DH to host while the rest of you go about your business.[/quote]

We’ll easier said than done. These are super fun aunt and uncle- and my kids just have a hard time going to bed when they are there. Plus we have smaller house and they are loud! Last night was a bit odd in that this contractor came later than expected.  I had carefully maneuvered a plan- told kids no go to eat with aunt and uncle- oldest take youngest to bball practice and home to get ready for bed and study.  We were to be done with contractor by then. 
   Daughter picked up to eat so no aunt and uncle at our housr late.
    But here they come inside after eating and never leave. The contractor stayed forever but there was a lot to discuss. The aunt and uncle just hung in living room with kids forever! They wouldn’t leave.  So kids just hung- I kept telling daughter- go to bed. She of course argued- son said he was studying but in living room with them.  
    My husband helped with nothing. My son was pretty upset- he said that he felt like he needed to hang out and host them- but we knew he had a test. Which is understandable. He’s also super tired. [/quote]

It's not really understandable that your son would want to go study but feel that he needs to host. If you and your son are on the same page, just loudly say "John, I know you are enjoying the company, but you have a big test tomorrow. If you don't go upstairs now, you'll be in trouble with me." Just give him the out and he will go. I understand it being tougher with the little kids if they are having a good time. If you insist a few times and put up with fighting and tears that aren't fun for anyone, the IL may start to get it.[/quote]

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