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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These poor kids.  Seriously, it’s no wonder mental health issues among teens are so rampant.  I say this as a parent of a kid who I would describe as high stats based on PPs definitions who I wish would just spend the next year doing what makes him happy instead of worrying about competing on this level.  [/quote]

Then why is he? You are the parent. [/quote]

Because it’s what he wants.  This has nothing to do with pressure from parents.  He has his sights set on a couple of schools (not ivies, but T20) and we have made it clear that he doesn’t need to put that kind of pressure on himself. [/quote]

I see more mental health issues with low performing kids. It has less to do with academics though and more to do with parental indifference, home environment and a feeling of low self esteem.  High performing kids tend to have high self-esteem because they know that they are excelling and school is a good place to be for them. It is their place of success.  Also, their parents are very involved with them so they get a lot of attention.  Most of these kids also have a support system of tutors, coaches, counselors etc and so they have a team of adults guiding them.

Most of the time the high performing kids are also too busy with academics and ECs to have time for things that can lead them to path of depression - drugs, vaping, dating, social media etc.  They also tend to hang around with other high performers and so they do not have the FOMO that other non-high stats kids may have.  The attitude of the school administrators, teachers and counselors towards these kids is also different and they are taken seriously and allowed a lot of leeway in things that low performing students are not allowed,  because they are viewed as good kids with involved parents. Classroom is thus not a source of stress for them. They are treated with respect by adults.

Regardless of the fact that most of these students do not get into ivies, they know that they will succeed and become UMC, because they end up going to highly coveted STEM fields and are employed.  They are usually also coming from high SES families and very often intact families (not always, but very often).  They also get lots of leg up in college tuition. Either merit scholarships, need based scholarships or parents pay for it. Very rarely do these students take out student loans.

- DP

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