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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hmm...sorry but this friend would be ghosted very soon by my DD and I would devote a lot of time and effort on my DD to talk to her, explain things to her  and divert her towards more positive endeavors.

Parenting is tough.  You have to put in lots of time and be available to your kids, otherwise, very soon your kid will be cutting or sexting or whatever path such bad influence friends lead your kid to. [/quote]

Parenting IS tough, you're not wrong there. However, you are asking an awful lot of your child here. Insisting that someone else ghost a friend isn't the same as doing it yourself. What exactly would you propose that DD say to this person when they continue to contact her? When they see each other at school? At age 12, "My mom said I can't talk to you anymore" is laughable and not going to happen.

I agree with putting in the time, but the approach you are describing is a recipe for a kid who will be terrified to talk to her mom if things get weird or scary socially, since you've made it very clear that anyone with problems should be shunned.

OP, if your child knows that you read her texts, talk to her about this one. Express concern. Follow safety rules that make sense to you. But realistically, you cannot prevent a child this age from being friends with someone, short of taking away her phone and switching to an environment where she won't see this other girl at all. What you can do is make sure that your child knows that they can talk to you about friend stuff so that you can be slightly more certain that they will be telling the truth when they do talk to you about friend stuff. [/quote]

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