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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I sympathize with your situation. Be aware that everyone here is going to tell you that "the no vote wins" and you need to drop it and that you should be content with the one child that you have.

However, my unpopular opinion is that you should not drop it so easily. [b]Your feelings on this are equally valid as his.[/b] And, he is the one who has changed his mind. You entered this marriage expecting to have 2-3 children.

I think ultimately it comes down what type of person your DH is and what relationship you have. Many men are quite obstinate in their views, expect their spouse to generally go along with their decisions, and would greatly resent feeling pressured into having another. There are  some men who are more flexible in their thinking, and can be persuaded by their wives. What is the real consequence for you if you continue to bring it up? Do you think he would leave you over pushing the issue? Why not keep trying. I would also remind him that you entered into this marriage with the expectation of having 2-3 kids, if you have not already.

Finally, I do think that you need to separate the issue of your health issues and you child(ren) taking care of you. You could have 1 child or 4 children and there is still no guarantee that they will step up to care you for in old age. Good luck.  [/quote]

How about if she was pregnant and wanted an abortion and he didn't?  Would his feelings be as "equally valid" then?  Cut me a break.  He wants a pre-pregnancy abortion.  Fair is fair.[/quote]

It sounds like you are saying that one parent's opinion on having a child is more important than the others? Please elaborate, I would love to hear more. [/quote]

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