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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can always get the anecdotal experience that you want to hear, but pragmatically, most people do cleavage on income lines. In the first place, it's unusual to have the same friends from childhood into adulthood, and self-made people are the people who tend to travel the furthest from their childhood origins so they're less likely to retain childhood friends. Money changes people. It always does. It's not inherently a bad thing, it is just what it is. You live in different areas, you take up different expenditures, develop different tastes and expectations, and that has great implications on your friendships and social network.

I'm in my early 40s and I've already seen a fair amount of separation by incomes as people's careers took different trajectories in their 30s. In our 20s we were united in being broke grad students or starting out at first jobs with loans. By late 30s the doctors and lawyers and finance gurus are in a fairly different place, economically, than the social workers and teachers. The houses are much more expensive, people can afford or even contemplate the prospects of private schools, cars are nicer, travel is nicer, and the day to day affluenza is significantly different. Your friendships dwindle to a phone call every now and then. You get to the point when you pick up the phone and then stop and hang up without dialing because it starts to be a bit embarrassing to suggest going out to dinner when you know they can't probably afford it. It happens, and it's just the way it is.

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WTAF? Why not invite them over for dinner? Or slum it at an old haunt?[/quote]

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