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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My able bodied parents moved to a place where they felt like everyone else was "old" (my parents are 83!). [b]So they moved to a different community where the age range is about 70-90, but very few are unable to care for themselves[/b]. They're definitely happier there.

They visited a number of places, visited the common areas and during scheduled activities to get a sense of the types of residents living there. Can you take your mom around to some of the communities? [/quote]

But in OP's situation, her mom isn't able to care for herself.   Even if OP wants her mom to be around more "youthful" vibrant people, do those youthful people want to hang out with OP's mom?   [/quote]

This. I think your mom is depressed because she is an old person and she is so able bodied anymore. She cannot run away from this. My mom thinks she is too fancy for AL. She says her young neighbors love her and in the same breath she wonders if they all have Covid because they see her and run inside their homes. Mom will say she hates how her peers complain about all their ailments, then she complains about all her ailments. Mom will report one of her old friends is just so lonely, then mom throws guilt trips that we don't visit her enough and she complains her friends are always busy. Mom who never invited us on her fancy trips with dad, thinks we should invite her on vacation. We do active things. She hates standing or walking for very long and is prone to anger fits. Oh and she complains her former neighbor who is elderly was prone to anger fits. You get the picture.[/quote]

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