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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are going to visit my husbands family, but I also  have family nearby (my cousin) and she generously offered her second house for us to use. She offered it to us, and I accepted. Is that wrong?

My sister is appalled,[b] saying that we shouldn’t vacation if we can’t afford it. She says we shouldn’t vacation if we can’t afford to properly house our own family.[/b]

It makes me wonder…was it totally tacky of our family to accept the cousins vacation home? My cousin was insistent and is thrilled we are using it, and we’ll visit and hang out with her of course also.[/quote]

I think most PPs are misreading sister's motivations here. Based on the bolded above, plus OP's subsequent post saying that sis is well-off and takes fabulous vacations, week--we OP is not wealthy and does not take fabulous vacations, I think sis gets a great deal of personal satisfaction from being the sister who is wealthy enough to afford nice vacations. OP getting to take a nice vacation doesn't fit sister's internal narrative, in which she is the sophisticated jet-setter and OP is just a member of the unwashed masses. [/quote]

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