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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DC is about to hit a grade where if we go private, now is the time to think about making some moves.

My DH and I went to private our whole lives. My DH is super against sending our child to private. DH went to a big deal private here and disliked it. He is not convinced the education is worth the price, thinks our child has a better shot at college and life skills in a AP track public, and doesn’t want our child to think the world works the way DH believes private school kids around here do.

I can only admit this anonymously, I’m so embarrassed, but this the truth. I am afraid if my child doesn’t go to private school he’ll never be able to move in upper class circles with total ease. He won’t understand those sort of dog whistle references or get exposed to some things that are good to know when you’re an adult. There is a “code”. There just is. And upon reflection I can’t figure out if I learned that code, which I need him to know, from my parents or from private school. Will he miss out on that culture piece of things if we keep him in public? 
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That "code" you are talking about relates to old money circles.  Having a private education, beach house (is that some new measure?  If so, I speak the code, yay!!!  :roll: ) and taking French will not put you any closer to being "in" with those circles.  Your either born into it or not, know the ways subtle ways of the truly wealthy or not, and it sounds like you do not; otherwise, a private education would not even be a question.  So, if you are not old money, you are new money, maybe a couple of generations wealthy, and any kid like that can get what they need from public or private to go to UVA, marry well and take over the family's few million bucks in that case.  It sounds like your husband either doesn't particularly care for your child to associate with douchey new wealth types, hung up on themselves and their newfound money and one-upmanship games, or maybe he'd rather have junior be one of the richest kids at school rather than one of the lesser rich ones.  No way to tell for sure, but frankly, you sound more than a little snobby.  [/quote]

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