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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]20:01 here...I'm talking to 18:31 and 19:28.

I'm not maligning the monk posters.[/quote]

Why over the line? If two people cn't get along or don't want to, that's not a good model for children is it? The priest thing was a joke, get over it.[/quote]

I'm the first "monk" -- the sexless part is separate from the getting along part. We actually get along well enough. There's just no sex. I'm sure this is difficult for some people to grasp, but it does exist. It perplexes me. I've tried a variety of techniques: I've asked hinted, asked straight out, pleaded once or twice, but it just doesn't happen. Two or three times a year, with the lights out and a grudging "I guess we'd better do it" remark or two kind of makes you give up after a while.

Here's the thing, though: An affair is still a marriage killer. So, if you are a dad with normal needs and you genuinely love your kids and want to see them daily, what are you supposed to do? I'm too risk-averse to get some on the side and, frankly, I don't have enough energy to do that either. I'm no good at lying, and I can't afford a divorce, monetarily or emotionally.

So, I'm trapped. It's not fair, I know. So, what am I supposed to do? Disrupt everything because I don't get any?

That's why I said I'm basically a monk. It's not a willing vow of celibacy, but... it's still celibacy.[/quote]

Counseling.  It's not just for women to suggest.  Men don't like it, but screw it, you aren't getting laid and it is a legitimate marital issue.[/quote]

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