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[quote=Anonymous]In these situations I acknowledge that I made a mistake and I will fix it, but we need to go now. I wouldn’t give in to the dessert.

At age 5 they’re old enough to understand that it’s time to go or you’re going to be late. I don’t know about you guys but my kids LOVE telling me when I did something wrong so I would validate their feelings A LOT and use it as a teaching moment.

Kid: “How could you forget your PROMISE?? That’s so unfair!”

Me: “You’re right. I did forget. I am very sorry. That was wrong.”

Kid: Whine, whine

Me: “How do you think I can fix this mistake?”

Kid: “Let me have dessert now!”

Me: “That doesn’t work because we need to be at soccer on time. One thing we can do is eat dessert right when we get home from soccer practice OR after dinner. Which one would you like better?”

We would be getting buckled up and out the door as usual but whenever they complained about it, I would calmly agree that yes, I had made a mistake and it didn’t feel good that I had forgotten a promise. It really takes the steam out of the whining when you acknowledge that their feelings are valid.. Ask for help fixing it. Ask them for ideas. Reiterate that it’s important to remember to do something when you say you’re going to do it. And say that when you make a mistake it’s important to try to fix it.

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