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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is my single biggest parenting challenge-- grandparents next door. Ok, not literally next door, but my ILs live less than a mile away. We see them almost every day, for one thing or another. I have tried everything: rational conversation, stern and specific instructions, begging, limiting access, and they WILL. NOT. STOP. with the grandparent spoiling. We're talking cupcakes (yes, multiple) and juice every time they get within arm's length of the kid, which again, is every day. We're talking absolutely unlimited and unsupervised screen time. We're talking tolerating truly awful behavior. (I once saw my daughter smack her grandfather in irritation when he tried to turn off her game. He chuckled. I nearly lost my shit.)

My husband has made it very clear that he is not interested in opposing his parents. (Cultural stuff.) His parents have made it very clear that they are not interested in learning the word "no".

My only hope at this point is to convince the kid that all this stuff is bad for her, so she starts policing herself.[/quote]

I feel sorry for you, as you're screwed.

What if you stand up to them?  If your husband is that bound to his parents and if his parents are that controlling - using kids as pawns, I'm sure - you either suck it up or create boundaries.

And I, too, come from that "cultural stuff."  But in the States, things are different!

Stand up for yourself or it will only become worse.[/quote]

You sound like one of those bad bosses who says "Just make it happen!" It doesn't work that way. There is no magic wand.

What, specifically, do you mean by "stand up for yourself" that isn't covered under "rational conversation, stern and specific instructions, begging, limiting access"? [/quote]

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