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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom never did either. Then again, we’re fairly certain that she was a narcissist, if not somewhere on the BPD spectrum. She would go on and on about her friends whom I had never met and barely listen to a few sentences about me without turning it back to her life.[/quote]

Same, Dr. Ramani vids on YT re: narcissism were very helpful to me.

Can't know if you are in the same situation, OP, but I ultimately concluded that it was best to not share much with my mom, it just gets repeated to the world in the monologues and she did not have real interest. Even my kids when preschoolers used to say, "why does Grandma call and talk about all these people we don't know and does not ask about us?!" so I knew I was doing better at providing a healthy conversational template.

Info with narc is often weaponized. My mom will push for details of people's financial lives, autopsies, etc. Best we keep it light and to the surface is my motto. It is what it is and best to protect myself. Her having info doesn't create the capacity for genuine interest or empathy, so, best not to interject it into convos. [/quote]

I could have written this too. I’m struggling with some issues my child is having with learning and school. I wish I had a mom who I could talk to about it but I’ve kept it to myself because it feels like she’d gloat on it and share with my other siblings.[/quote]

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