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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow this annoys me. Do other women like this? I hate it.

I’m all for men being feminists and I’m not trying to say only women are allowed to talk about feminism. But there’s a new guy in my office who is so obviously trying to ingratiate himself with the women here by really hitting us over the head with his feminist politics. It’s grating. Particularly because he’s also pretty arrogant in general, so a lot of it comes off as him lecturing us about feminism. I hoped it we just smiled and we’re otherwise welcoming he’d stop trying do hard and chill, but he seems to have taken it as encouragement and gotten worse. Sigh.

[b]Also, he’s very into being sex positive, which again I support as a general rule, but this is a professional workplace full of lawyers and public policy hacks, and we should probably just not discuss sex in the workplace unless it’s relevant to our work? Like yes, I too support sex workers and the right if any woman to use her body as she wants, but when you talk about that in the workplace you just sound horny, I’m sorry.[/b]

Anyway, don’t go this. Be a feminist, support feminist causes, vote for feminist politicians, consume books and art and news created by women. But don’t expect a cookie for it. I do those things every day and no one is sitting around paying me on the head and encouraging me for it. Ugh.[/quote]

1. That isn't true feminism that's  Tumblr version of feminism. Yours and his understanding of feminism is basic at best.

2.  How do you know his feelings on the subject are " just trying to get women to like him"?

3. Let's be real your issue isn't so much the subject it's that you even if you don't want to admit it is attracted to him despite his annoying traits.  This bothers you because you think of yourself better than that, better than The other women around you so these feelings infuriate you. Instead of doing self-work your reaction is to demonize him.  I've known many women like you, and don't bother calling me an incel. I am a woman and an actual feminist so I can see through Tumblr feminists like yourself.

4. Since you find his topic of conversation ( reasonably) inappropriate for work why haven't you reported him? Do you fear nothing will be done?  Do you fear retaliation?  Why haven't you  called him ouy, pointed out maybe the topic of conversation isn't appropriate for work? Or does your feminism begin and end with buying books, art , and voting for a woman?[/quote]

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