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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He was born five weeks early. I think the theory on these websites and in the studies etc. is that abortion can cause incompetent cervix. It very well may. [/quote]

Nobody really knows. The people that run those websites are trying to prevent abortions, so they say what will help get that message across.  What is in the past is done and can't be changed.  You need to move on with you life, and stop punishing yourself.   I think that is the whole point of life, to learn from our mistakes and then continue to grow.   Thankfully five weeks isn't too early.  But you will deffinetly need to be careful if you have another baby.  Because they know of this issue they can do things to prolong your pregnancy.  Make sure to avoid IUDs or wait six months after having it removed to concieve.,  Read about them, my SIL had one for 5 years, then concieved a month after it was removed.  She lost her baby 6 mo. later.  She never had a problem with incompetant cervix  before the IUD.[/quote]

PP are you the one who posted earlier about the lost baby at 6 mo gestation. Please people - for those of us who are pregnant (this IS an expectant moms forum) when you put scary stories in here like people miscarrying at 6, 7, months - TELL US WHY!!!!!!!!!! I'm 5 months pregnant and your earlier comment scared the crap out of me, and probably a bunch of others. Think before you post.

OP I am so sorry, but please the other posters are right, at some point you have to stop beating yourself up over this. I am (somewhat) in the same boat with a regret situation I can't undo, but my husband keeps saying, "All you can do is learn from it, not do it again, and try to get past it."

Five weeks isn't dire, I have friends who had complications and went into labor at 25 weeks and their babies are alive (in the NICU still) but doing REALLY WELL! They can do amazing things with medicine now, and you got to 35 weeks, you did good. Be kind to yourself.[/quote]

PP here, I am so sorry!  I did not mean to scare you!  I actually did not notice the forum it was in, I was worried about the OP and lost track of my thoughts.  Thanks for the reminder to be careful.  I also wonder if this is the appropriate forum for the OP's question, the reason I answered so frankly was because of how honest her post was.  [/quote]

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