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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People on DCUM believe these things. If you aren't pretty enough, like Carrie Bradshaw, you don't deserve boyfriends. If you are frumpy, you don't deserve a "rich" husband. Same for being too fat, too skinny, or too old. And they can't understand why they aren't "winning" at life despite all their advantages.[/quote]

Yep. I am a person who is chubby, a couple years older than my very handsome and fit husband, and I haven’t had great career successes- in large part Bc I was diagnosed as an adult with ADHD and struggled to manage it well until very recently and was in fields that were a complete mismatch for my issues.

My mother and unmarried/no kids sister cannot understand why I seem to “have it all” and don’t worship at the altar of their perfection. If something goes wrong for me, they gloat about it and love to call and ask for all the gory details, and when things go well, they are extra nasty and mean to me or they just avoid me. It’s depressing and hurtful, but I can’t change them.[/quote]

Are you me? I have ADHD too and my mother never lets me forget my struggles with organization growing up. She also made fun of me for going to therapy as an adult. She had a miserable marriage. I am happily married and have real friends. My sister, the Golden child, is single, doesn't have many friends and both she and my mother seem to to think I don't deserve to be happy. They are not impressed with my career path because it isn't lucrative. They think I just lucked out with my husband rather than working hard to have a healthy relationship. They refuse to believe one of my kids has special needs even though it is well documented. I swear when anything going wrong for me they are cheering on the sidelines and also want to hear every gory detail which I don't share. I just pick myself up and move forward. Most of their interactions are gossiping and pointing out how people are inferior to them. Needless to say they tight as can be and I am the black sheep. I was more of a daddy's girl, but he passed away.[/quote]

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