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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have come to realize that we all have a better vacation when we let DH spend a little time (sometimes he needs half and hour and sometimes he needs half a day) work on vacation. We make sure that we stay at places where he can get work done (cell signal for BB, internet connection, landline connection if overseas) and we build it into our day.  Before kids, I would go and do a little window shopping in the morning, or see something that DH wasn't interested in, or go for a run.  After kids, we go to the pool or the beach.

I am sure there are people who will criticize me for not making DH focus entirely on the family while away, but in reality he is only able to focus entirely on the family for the majority of the day if he is able to check in with work (he is a BigLaw partner) and make sure that the projects that he has going on are moving forward and that his clients are not having a crisis.  This makes the whole vacation much more enjoyable for everyone because he can really relax. [b]Also, I know what it feels like when he has colleagues and subordinates who go on vacation and drop off the face of the earth. Often what would have taken that person 10 minutes if they had been willing to call in will take the rest of the team hours because they are coming in late in the process to finish things and that person's vacation becomes a burden for everyone else.  I never want my DH to be the cause of other people's ruined plans when with a little effort that can be avoided.
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If you choose to work in certain fields, you really just do need to accept that work is never entirely gone.  I am a university professor.  I work mainly by myself and can sometimes totally disconnect.  But if a grad student is waiting for feedback or a friend needs me to get comments on their work to them right away, I make time on vacation. Family is really important, but we live within complex social systems and we need to think about the way that our actions and choices impact the lives of many different people within that system.  [/quote]

This is an important point.  I have had plenty of vacations/weekends ruined by other people because they decided that their time off was much more important than mine and just checked out despite the fact that work still had to get done. [/quote]

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