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[quote=Anonymous]I was a PP above.  I want to add an anecdotal observation that I think there are real benefits to doing a sibling adoption because it seems to have given mine a biological "stability" that I think has been lacking in the situations of friends who either had one adopted child or several adopted, but biologically unrelated, children.   Sibling adoptions carry their own issues---as all are older-child adoption scenarios---but I think it was a big positive for us.   We also have an "open" adoption in the sense that we and our kids know where the biological family is.  Even though we have no legal obligation, I send an annual letter update, which the bio family seems happy to have.  The kids know I do it, and in some way it seems that my doing that gives them some security and relief---they know there's a door there if they want to go through it, but only when and if they decide to, and my keeping the door available takes the burden off them to go looking.

I know that current foster/social work paradigms endorse open adoptions but I think what we do is all that an adoptive parent should have to do.  This trend in social work towards family reunification (in foster care)/open adoption just isn't in the long term best interests of the child when the biological families have serious on-going pathologies.  [/quote]

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