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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. I keep thinking about what to do, and realize that I used to bribe him more. I could do more of that again, for sure (like, hey I’ll get you a pack of cards When u go on a walk with me in the afternoon…)  I guess I stopped doing that because his little sister got jealous but [b]maybe need to bring back that option??[/b]

So I should use positive reinforcement, that works better I know. But I should I keep blaming shorter trips on logistics/other reasons?? I should right?? We just can’t manage his behavior 100 percent and it’s exhausting.

I will say aunt and uncle are good about it. Grandmother gets most mad. She’s not really into explanations of anything, she is one sassy bossy old school lady.[/quote]

No. This is the opposite of what people are telling you. He’s too old for being bribed with toys. You need to talk to him and say his behavior is too much for a longer trip. If he agrees to take a daily 3 hour break with you, the next trip can be 4 days. You’re doing him a disservice by not telling him that his behavior is a problem. Really, family is a safe place to practice social skills. Take advantage of it because it’s only going to get harder as he gets older and his friends aren’t going to give him the many chances that the cousins will.

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All of this.  You don't have to overwhelm him with negative feedback to the point where he can't process it, but you have to be crystal clear with him in a manageable way that his behavior is not okay and that it is causing him not to have the relationships that he wants.  Give him a manageable goal (like not saying anything about rubber chickens) and feedback.

It seems like the unstructured time and conversation isn't working great for him, maybe consider something else with cousins like a game of frisbee or a museum or something.  Walking around to see decorations, walking a dog, Pokemon Go, etc.[/quote]

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