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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Other than visiting, the in laws assume you are adults and will handle your own life. Do you want them to offer you money or do you want to curtail their visits? I get that you are stressed and aren't interested in putting on a brave face. Tell your DH you need a long break from visitors. Could he handle that. If not, you tell the in laws.[/quote]

I don’t need them to offer money
I would love it if they would apply some pressure from their end, and/ or verbally acknowledge to me that there’s a clear issue and discuss it openly. Or alternatively just not add pressure Eg his mom often asks me to do favors - now isn’t really the time [/quote]

You should broach the subject then. “When DH was younger was there anything you could say/do to keep him productive and on track? I’m so frustrated. Do you think it’s going to get better? I’m sorry Barbara I’m so stressed about DH’s job situation I’m too overwhelmed to take you to the airport. When DH drives you can you talk to him about his job situation? I’m at wit’s end.”

Sitting around waiting for them to read your mind will continue to not work. Odds are the above won’t work either-but at least if you do this you can be sure you tried everything. [/quote]

No. Do not confide in his mother and look for her help in your marriage difficulties. This will lead to more problems later. See an outside therapist if you want someone to talk to like this or a couples therapist. Not family. [/quote]

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