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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are weirdly and inappropriately demonizing a ten-year-old child.[/quote]

Not demonizing just identifying that the relationship is hurtful to DS.  Another example- they have a three row vehicle and DS is obsessed with the idea of riding in the back row. It’s all he talks about. I always tell him know bc it’s hard for me to get back there and the buckle for one seat belt sits really low and is hard to do.  Nephew knows DS wants to sit back there so nephew goes back there and sits in the “easy” to buckle seat. We can’t get the tricky one to click so I tell DS he has to come back to the middle row. DS is so sad about it that he starts crying, meanwhile nephew sits in the third row contentedly while SIL says nothing.  [/quote]

Have you said to SIL "Rebecca, I know it's a little silly but Larlo is dying to ride in the far backseat of your van. Can you ask Octavius to move to the left side so I can get Larlo buckled in on the right? Thank you so much. And thank you, Larlo, that's very kind of you to move."

Otherwise, it sounds like nephew needs space. I understand that it's annoying when he is purposefully mean, but just keep it in mind next time you visit that you don't have a built in playmate. Just treat nephew like you would the neighborhood bully. Your kid has to be nice, but quietly discourage interaction. And tell your kid privately "That was nice of you to invite Octavius to play. I'm not sure why he was so grouchy about it, but I was proud of how kind you were. Why don't you and I do a puzzle together now."[/quote]

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