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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I would make this DC’s issue and DC’s problem to address. One of the consequences of going this route is having to explain it to people. Not your responsibility [/quote]
+100. Welcome to the real world. Actions have consequences.[/quote]

As the mom of a kid who is gender nonconforming, I find these comments disgusting.  Especially on a board geared towards mothering.  What kind of “mother” thinks like this?

OP -  Talk to your child first.  Find out what they want.  Then decide how to move forward.  It should not be a surprise.  Maybe a phone call or an email.  Again, let your kid steer this.

[b]As a mom, it is your job to protect your child. [/b] That means determining who might make cruel, hurtful, transphobic comments.  You don’t spend time with those people anymore.  You put your child above them.  Make it clear that you will not be a part of their lives until they demonstrate the ability to be compassionate, accepting adults.  They don’t have to agree with your child’s choices.  But they damn well better be kind.  That means using their preferred name and pronouns.  People slip up.  That’s ok. It’s the intent that tells you what kind of people they are. [/quote]
You seem not to understand that it’s also your job to set boundaries and say no. Going along with whatever your child can devise isn’t parenting; it’s laziness. Shielding your child from natural consequences is even worse. You’re dropping the ball big time and need to be quiet while good parents talk.[/quote]

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