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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry OP, I have been there - years of infertility, loss, and failed IVF. I wish I had known going in that it's a numbers game, [b]however if you keep going there will eventually be success somehow.[/b] I think for mental health it is definitely important to take a break and have some months off where you don't think about IVF. It is all-consuming, so it's good to get out of that bubble, distract with other things, then come back when ready.

How many rounds of IVF have you done, how many transfers? I think next steps all depend on that too. Wishing you all the best![/quote]

Have you never met someone childless not by choice? This is simply not true and harmful to women that did everything (treatment, donor, adoption) and never got lucky. Have some awareness, PP.[/quote]

Most of us who fail just don't post anywhere about it, because so few people want to hear that some of us don't succeed. [/quote]

I thought that "there would eventually be success somehow" and when I was still childless after nearly ten years and hundreds of thousands of dollars, my despair wasn't so much at not being a mother but at what I thought was being an inexplicable failure. I thought that if I tried hard enough, waited long enough, spent enough money, tried everything, I WOULD be a mother. That's what I was told by people like you. I honestly could not believe that there were other women like me. Because people like you make it such that in addition to the grief and loss we feel, we feel like such freaks that we just slink away quietly and never talk about it.

I can't even tell you how damaging and hurtful the "eventually there will be success" message is, both to women trying and to women who tried and failed. [/quote]

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