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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wrap empty boxes for decor and sprinkle in the real gifts. If it’s the visual he wants, that’ll do it. [/quote] OP here. It's that he wants to give our kids a bunch of stuff, so no empty boxes or charity (I mean not that we don't give to charity, but giving to charity wouldn't scratch this itch). We aren't taking pictures and aren't on social media, so it's not wanting the effect for others. He just wants that look of magic when they come down the stairs (like when they were 3-4). I also think he's coming at it from the perspective of a non-Christian kid surrounded by Christians who was envious of Christmas and had this idea of how Christmas was for all his friends that were experiencing it. He wants to replicate that for his kids.[/quote] Eh does it make your DH happy? Do the kids seem to be having a good time? If he’s not or wasn’t raised as a Christian then maybe he just views it a different way, he’s not celebrating the birth of Jesus, he celebrating the warm and fuzzy feeling of letting go and just expressing his love for his kids and family in a way that doesn’t involve the practical necessities of life, ie, paying the mortgage, light bill, schlepping the kids to soccer, working late nights, etc., maybe it brings him joy! I get the whole middle class thing, but is he extravagant year round, or just this one day? I’d let it go, there is nothing practical about the way many Cleo’s celebrate Christmas, and if it brings him joy and you aren’t carrying debt for a year(s) to pay for it then not sure I see the problem. And this is coming from a person who is also middle class, but I also don’t spend much during the rest of the year, other than travel and because I really don’t like a bunch of stuff, but I thinks it’s fun to break that mindset for one day. Also I was raised a Christian but after awhile the Christ just fell out of the equation, so it really is for my family about the festivities! And for what it’s also worth because I’m not in general a rabid consumer of stuff, I am a 2%r, and no, I don’t live in a $1.5 McCraftman, so while my HH is middle income, my net worth would indicate that Christmas isn’t breaking the bank. But I only have one kid, so if I spend $1,500+ on gifts at Christmas then that’s a cheap Xmas. Ease up on your old man mama let him have his fun! Do some relationship thread searches between now and Xmas morning and just be thankful he isn’t spending it on hookers and blow![/quote]
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