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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to make them be a team. Ours fight too (of course!) but they are pretty cute together.  usually we just remove ourselves and make them figure it out. In your park example I suppose you could do what a PP suggested or you could say super casually “oh kids, we are going to a park in an hour, you two figure out where we should go.” Then walk away. When they squabble, casually say “you guys are good at solving problems. I know you will figure it out.” Then leave again.

This works for all sorts of compromise situations. Sometimes you will have to broker “hmm sounds like you really can’t agree… hmm… what could we do…” if they still can’t offer a solution you could either say you will pick for them or you can help them figure out taking turns.

One thing we also learned in siblings without rivalry or peaceful siblings is to never have them race each other - we make it kids vs parents but never kid vs kid. They are a team. [/quote]

Too young for this.  They don't have the cognitive tools to reason through a situation.[/quote]

NP. It depends on the kids for sure. My younger one is the same as yours but my older one is older and they argue a lot, it’s so frustrating. They have(after much guidance) figured out that most issues can be solved by 1) taking turns choosing or 2) playing separately (which I enforce if they are really being nasty to each other). Can they do this consistently with out me stepping in? No especially when tired or worn out from a rough school day. But sometimes so I hope it will get better as the younger one gets older…[/quote]

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