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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][/b]We treat our spouses the way we saw our parents interact. [b]

This means we often end up with spouses who are similar to our parents because we are comfortable and familiar with the behavior patterns. [/quote]

Who’s this “we”? I definitely don’t. My parents frequently fought/argued, were disrespectful and unkind to each other. My spouse and I are the opposite of that and have a very loving, respectful relationship.

My husband is nothing like my dad. They share approximately zero of the same traits. [/quote]

Yeah my whole adult life has been me being the opposite of my mother (SAHM, mommy martyr, obsessed with "the kids" at the expense of her marriage -- I'm ambitious in my career, an "it takes a village" parent with a life outside parenting, and devoted to my marriage first). She also used to passive aggressively stew rather than talk about issues. Never fought, but it was because she buried her grievances and let them fester. I am a "talk it out" person...to a fault sometimes.[/quote]

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