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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Is she perfect? Of course not, but we are never act this way towards her."

I find this statement telling.  So basically youre willing to overlook and normalize her bad behavior?  And you're angry at him for being unwilling to do so?[/quote]

Yeah, this is what my husband’s siblings say.  His parents were abusive and he is the only one who has maintained firm boundaries since leaving home.  I have to wonder what the “misunderstanding” was.[/quote]

He comes back to her again and again, even though he has a prior  history. I try to limit my interactions but be cordial. He probably should have moved to a different city, state or country, but he hasn't 
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Why arent you answering any other questions OP, just trying to blame him? [/quote]

I don't think a grown man should act that way. He acted quite abusive and I have seen this abuse before. I do not act abusive when my mom acts poorly to me. Neither does my other brother.

It's like everyone on this board has some kind of "never blame the child complex" [/quote]

And how should a grown woman act?  You said your mom acts poorly... what does that entail?  It seems to me your family has a long history of excusing some bad behavior from her but holding your brother's feet to the fire. [/quote]

She is in her 70s and does not have the best health. She is likely starting to go senile and in many ways acts worse than she used to. [/quote]

Okay...and what does that entail and has that entailed in the past? [/quote]

OP seems very reluctant to even reflect or explore at all her mother's behavior. [/quote]

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