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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Is she perfect? Of course not, but we are never act this way towards her."

I find this statement telling.  So basically youre willing to overlook and normalize her bad behavior?  And you're angry at him for being unwilling to do so?[/quote]

Yeah, this is what my husband’s siblings say.  His parents were abusive and he is the only one who has maintained firm boundaries since leaving home.  I have to wonder what the “misunderstanding” was.[/quote]

He comes back to her again and again, even though he has a prior  history. I try to limit my interactions but be cordial. He probably should have moved to a different city, state or country, but he hasn't 
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Why arent you answering any other questions OP, just trying to blame him? [/quote]

I don't think a grown man should act that way. He acted quite abusive and I have seen this abuse before. I do not act abusive when my mom acts poorly to me. Neither does my other brother.

It's like everyone on this board has some kind of "never blame the child complex" [/quote]

It's not abuse to reveal to your parent that you have hated them for many years.  It's startling and it can be hurtful, but it's not abuse, OP.  This is how people express their feelings.  You sound very very uncomfortable with expression of real feelings.  Like it or not, your brother is entitled to express deep negative feelings about his family.  The family is not just a place for sunshine and lollipops.[/quote]

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