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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP this time will pass, faster than you think.  I know it's hard when you are in the thick of it.

I would outsource all you can.

Remember being a single mom means you still have all the responsibility and no help.  And you can't control how your irresponsible ex parents on his time so, find a way to make it work.[/quote]

Op here. I agree I just don’t know what to do about the rage I feel all the time. Rage and exhaustion.[/quote]

I am new to this thread, but, it’s been a few years since I outsourced everything we could afford.  I also remind myself to be thankful for what he does do.  The time distance, plus aging of kids, who are now tweens and teens (both with relatively minor/moderate special needs - all falling on me) has absolutely smoothed out the rage I had.  I drank a lot, a glass of wine 3-5 times a week, to blunt things.  I don’t need the wine to be able to do that now.  But, in addition to the rage subsiding, so have all the other feelings.  There is nothing really left. We live in the house together, we contribute to savings together.  We don’t have much of a relationship beyond that.  He stopped sitting with us at dinner after he started cooking his own food for health reasons.  I don’t know if we’ll stay together once the kids are gone and we can downsize the house.  It’s not bad; it’s stable and it’s fine.  So, I’m not sure there is really a benefit in splitting up.  [/quote]

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