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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should not be arguing in front of your children. Why are you allowing that to happen? It takes 2 people to argue.[/quote]

You have no idea.  My adH will continue shouting at me even when I politely ask to end a discussion, even when I say I am done, even when I leave a room.  No one is going to tell him to stop talking in his own house!  No I’m is going to ask him to stop shouting!  What is wrong with me that I can’t even talk about politics?  What is wrong with me that I think he shouldn’t be able. Yo say what he wants in his own house?

Dah is going to scream and vent and pick fights no matter what I do.  Talking back doesn’t help.  Destroying him rhetorically doesn’t help.  Staying silent doesn’t help.  Ignoring him doesn’t help.  Refusing to engage doesn’t help.  1 parent can upset kids by arguing even when the other parent isn’t arguing back.[/quote]

My DH is the same.  I stay married as I’m scared he’ll hurt the kids if he loses control and I’m not there.  I have learned to just keep quiet and let him rant.  The shouting is over faster if I just ignore what he says.  [/quote]

But what is this teaching your children about what is normal? About relationships? About how mean treat women, and what mentally healthy women tolerate.

You are harming your children, just in a different way than you fear he will.[/quote]

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