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If you don't know, you should not be adopting or having step-kids.  It absolutely is not the same.  A child through adoption is your child, no different from birth.  A step-child is yours through marriage.[/quote]A child thru adoption is not the same as your own child.
It is someone elses child that you hope will not have any contact with its original family. And you might have to deal with the baggage that comes when and if that kid descides to trace its roots. And there are medical issues, psychological etc
But for many that is the only way they can have children.
For the adoptee a lingering sense of loss, a feeling of abandonement[/quote]

You are completely clues.  We have a very open adoption and love contact with the biological family.  We talk and see each other regularly and consider each other family.  We are the ones with the bond with our child and his birth parents and he will tell you very clearly he is OUR child and we are his parents.  There are no more medical issues than if I gave birth to him.  Same with psychological.    It was not the "only" way we could have children.  It was our preference and are so grateful every moment of every day we made the choice to do it.  My child was never abandoned. He was placed out of love with us.[/quote]

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