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I can't stop thinking about how to keep my child from growing up to be like Dharun.  What scares me is that when I was that age, I don't know if I would have been much better.  I can't see myself being a ringleader like Dharun, but I think I could have been Molly.  The desire to be funny, well-liked, and "cool" at that age is so powerful at that age , and probably at its height during the first weeks of freshman year of college.  My parents are good people but I don't know how much we ever talked about this kind of stuff.  I wonder what I can do, from an early age, to make my kids 1) feel comfortable enough in themselves that they don't need to get attention at others' expense; 2) understand that even people who seem different are people and deserve respect; and 3) take responsibility when they have done something wrong instead of try to weasel out of it.    [/quote]

This is exactly what I thought when I first heard the story.

Yes, Molly acted like an ass, but I'm pretty sure at that age, about 80% did stupid stuff just to go along with the crowd.  I certainly did, and I guess I'm just lucky that nothing bad ever happened.  My parents weren't exactly 'good people', more like 'okay people' so I definitely wonder what I can do to help my kids learn to not act like this.[/quote]

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