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[quote=Anonymous]My inlaws have seven grandchildren. My children were numbers 3 and 5 in birth order. I really felt like by the time my first came along, the bloom was off the rose as far as grandkids went. They are also closer to my husband's brother, whose family is and has been a mess for some time, as they are their rescuers. My kids would see the inlaws at holidays and birthdays, but in between, rarely. If they would ask to spend time with them, they literally would say that they weren't free because they were having the other kids over. Yes, they did come to special events on occasion, but after many times of hearing the special things they did and / or bought for their cousins, by the time my kids were in late elementary school, they stopped asking to stay at Gramps and Nana's house, because they knew the answer would be no - their cousins took priority.

Now, ten years later, they are not close at all to their grandparents. MIL passed last year, and to be honest, they have little desire to spend time with FIL, who is argumentative, rarely asks about them and who they do not feel close to. The preferred grandkids have since grown and flown, and they do keep in touch via phone, but Gramps spends a lot of time alone. Sadly, what goes around, comes around. [/quote]

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