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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL only has 2 grandchildren (my kids) so she has equal access to both kids and no other competing grandkids from another child. She still clearly favors the first born who is a boy. I am not sure she is aware of it but it is obvious to most others. My son has a strong resemblance to her son and my daughter has a strong resemblance to my side of the family.  This is something my MIL comments on a lot.  I have no idea if that somehow plays into it. Interestingly, her mother did the same thing with my husband and his sister.  His sister still talks about it as an adult.  [/quote]

I have twins and my ils were horrible about favoring one over the other from the time they were infants. It was sick. Like your kids they thought the one they preferred was more like their family. My sils were particularly horrible and would send the one kid twice as many gifts and for every holiday and birthday, the other kid's gifts would be delayed. We always redistributed the gifts and told them to stop sending them by the time they were 5. One sil visited when they were 1 and she acted as if the other kid did not exist. To call them dysfunctional is an understatement. We have no relationship with them at all.

My spouse and I talked to them about this and they were such a provincial, cult like family that they believed it was normal and was so good for the favored child that it was a positive thing. [/quote]

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