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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have seen this type of favoritism by grandparents in my own culture, particularly when there are lots of grandchildren.  For example, my grandparents took care of me when I was one years old and lived with them for 2 years.  So I was in effect my grandmother's last "child."  My grandfather favored his only two grandsons that carried on his last name.  Plus, they had 17 grandchildren over their 7 kids.

OTOH, my ILs only have 4 grandkids (2 from their one son and 2 from my DH), and I would say that my MIL prefers her other two over ours.  I have heard her ooh and aah over her one other granddaughter's  pic (even trying to show me pics on her phone) while making comments about while [b]my DD looks like their side, my DS looks nothing like them.  I believe that it's b/c her other grandkids are fully white, while ours are only half white[/b].[/quote]

I very much relate to this. My ILs have 5 grandchildren (2 from their one son and 3 from my DH). They seem to prefer the other two over ours and I suspect it’s because they are fully white and have more of a resemblance to their son, while ours are only half white. DH also comes from a family of all boys (3 total). My ILs don’t seem to know how to interact or play with my girls.

With my side of the family, I come from a family of all girls, everyone else lives within driving distance to each other and sees each other often. Whereas we have to fly cross country. So when we visit there is a novelty to seeing my kids, who are super excited to be there which I think gives them preferential treatment.[/quote]

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