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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I saw on the Parenting forum that someone had coined the term "new parent hubris," which seems like a perfect phrase!  I'm friendly with a woman who is a first time mom (former teacher, now SAHM) and she always has these confident answers for any situation or parenting question that moms in our circle have.  I actually have three kids, and often still feel like I don't know what I'm doing.  She only has one, but you couldn't tell based on how she projects. Part of me is really envious- how can a woman who only has one know more (or seem to) than someone who's on her third??  I don't know why this bothers me so much- I guess it's just my own insecurity. I think I'm a pretty good mom, but maybe it's part of the SAHM/WM thing that's getting to me.  She has time to go to parenting classes on potty training and make neat crafts with her kids. If I make it to the gym at lunch and get everything through dinner to bath and bed with little to no drama, I feel accomplished!

I know BTDT moms can be dismissive of FTMs' advice, but a lot of times, this woman's advice seems spot on.  She's a very nice person and I like her.  But why do I feel so envious and also a slight bit resentful at the same time?[/quote]

I'm the "new parent hubris" lady and I am tickled pink that it's coming into common use!

That said, OP, I know how you feel, and I only have one. I think that it's partly your insecurity, and to that extent, acknowledging that that's a problem does a lot to make the problem go away. I think the posters who mention that your friend maybe has more skills in entertaining children and keeping house than you do. This is definitely true for me - I knew I would be terrible at it and so I went back to work. I wish that I could do more; there are times when I sit at work daydreaming of fun craft projects or investigating classes that DD and I could take (always during the week, thanks yoga studios for that :()  I think (but obviously have no personal experience with, since I just have the one) that there is a real difference, logistically, between one and more than one. Even those craft projects you and I dream about would be complicated by having, say, a 6 month old and a 3 year old, versus a 2 year old and a 5 year old.

We are all dealing with issues. Sometimes they are different issues. Sometimes they are the same. You sound like you're doing just fine.[/quote]

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