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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife was skinny when we met but gained about 50lbs after a medical situation. She was overweight for about a year and then started delving more into nutrition to heal her medical condition. She has since lost more than 50lbs and has become obsessive about eating and exercise. We have always ate healthy with the exception of once a week take out and the occasional treat. We have both been very active and always worked out. My wife now works out for 2 hours everyday and is obsessive about her food. She had eliminated many food items claiming to now have an allergy though she had never had any tests done. She has been self diagnosing with things she’s allergic to and needs to supplement. She counts every calorie she eats and has to eat within a certain calorie count. I love that she has taken her health into her own hands, but the obsessiveness and self diagnosis is really starting to worry me. She has become way too skinny and I feel like she is going to get worse. I’m no longer attracted to her since she became too skinny. I do not her to develop an eating disorder or her to pass down her eating habits on future children. How can I gently ask her to see someone who can hopefully help her? [/quote]

Your wife 1000% is suffering from disordered eating.

Disordered eating sits on a broad spectrum between healthy/ordinary eating and eating disorders.

Disordered eating may include similar symptoms and behaviors of eating disorders, however they are at a lesser frequency or lower level of severity -- this includes obsessively counting calories, over exercising, the sufferer's entire world now revolves around food, and the planning of meals, the reading of labels, the counting of calories, etc.
Food is ALWAYS on their mind -- it is an extremly unhealthy & obsessive addiction, and the terrifying grasp this distorder has on the brain is astronomic.

Because, disordered eating doesn't include the mental health challenges of eating disorders (anorexia, bulimia, etc) it can be much, much more difficult for friends & loved ones to detect (and much more compelling for those dealing with these insecurities to experiment with).

Are you sure she hasn't crossed over into anorexia or bulimia?  It's very easy to make the transition...

You say that you don't want her to pass down her eating habits on future children... but what if she can't have future children because of her weight?

Women who stop consuming the calories needed and required for menstruation, stop getting their periods -- you cannot get pregnant if you don't get your period.

This has happened to many gymnasts I've worked with... some it took up to 5 years for their menstruation to return to a natural, healthy cycle.

I implore you OP, please do some research on 'disordered eating', as it's much more serious & concerning than it sounds like you're even aware.

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