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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I have nothing but empathy, my parents are the same.  I think part of it is generational.  They grew up in a time where a lot of deference was given to "elders" and feel that now they are the elders we owe it to them to do things like call and that they shouldn't have to initiate.  It doesn't make a lot of sense, but as noted by others, we aren't going to change them.  Like you, I gently remind my parents that things get busy but they can always call when they want talk and I will call back when I can.  [/quote]

Totally this.  They want the ceremony.[/quote]

They expect us to bend the knee at the altar of grandparent, since they did the same and feel that it is owed to them. My parents also expect that I will bring my child to them on a silver platter instead of them ever coming to us. They are retired, active, live 35 mins away and go all over the place. But somehow, their cars don't work in the direction of my house. We invite them frequently and there is always an excuse about why that day/time doesn't work for them - and it is usually something totally flexible, like "oh, next Tuesday doesn't work for us, we were thinking we might go to the nursery to look at plants." Then they will get really huffy when they demand I come over at say 9am on a Saturday and I say, no, child has soccer game at that time, but we would be glad to meet up afterward and then I get huffy responses about well, it is just so hard to get on our calendar. [/quote]

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