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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op Here.
DS prefers screens to everything but I do make him put them away when he is home. But he would rather stay in and read (sometimes draw or play) than go out.
We walk to school (about a mile) and he has PE there - that’s his exercise for now (he used to do gym or dance or swimming but honestly I am tired of paying and listening to his whining and him doing a half a**ed job so we are taking a break). 
He talks to friends at school and sometimes to another friend on weekends and it seems like it’s enough for him.

As to where I’d like to “drag” him: I would love for him to like an activity, any activity outside the house that is not videogames; and to see interesting stuff an enjoy it - museums, landmarks, amusement parks, anything! Just something outside the house really. I felt an obligation to do family outings with him - but I don’t want this anymore.
I want to go to the city for some Christmas spirit for example, and I would want him to come, but he probably won’t enjoy it much and will want to go home ASAP so I am very tempted to leave him home. However wouldn’t  it be a sort of “abandonment”? For lack of a bette word. That’s what I am concerned about: not giving him enough exposure to the world.
As for the trips, yes he gets to choose activities but he would rather just stay at a hotel or Airbnb so anything involving going out is already a chore. He may enjoy it later but no guarantee and it’s 2-3 hrs max.

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If I chose to leave him home, I'd take the screens away while I was gone and let him know in advance that if he's staying home, it's not to do that all day.[/quote]

He's only 11, so I wouldn't worry about it too much, but I would encourage him to have friends over.  As long as he is interacting with friends and socializing some, I would not worry too much about exposing him to the world of museums and mom stuff right now. FWIW, my son is a homebody, but when he got his first girlfriend, she wanted to go out, so all of a sudden he was mr. man about town, lol, going to the zoo and the nature park, etc.  That was a while ago and his new girlfriend is also a homebody, so they hangout around  here a lot, but there are still friends coming and going routinely.  I would just encourage occasional activities and having friends over for now.   He is still fairly young, so he may find an interest that he gets completely involved in, and all of a sudden you become taxi mom, lol.  [/quote]

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