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[quote=Anonymous]Op I think in the years you have been away they have built up traditions with other family.  You are closer but you are not close and I don't think you need to get approval to move. You moved to an area you wanted to live and are closer to family so naturally thought you would see them more.

Without asking you can't really know.  It sounds like your dad isn't willing to make an effort along with your step mother.  This is disappointing and I can understand why you are hurt.

It would appear they are not willing to change their traditions but were willing to fit you in for a short visit after.

I guess it is up to you whether you accept the short visit later and celebrate with them then.  Doing this now may open the door later to other holidays or it may not.  I think you need to move forward lowering your expectations of them.  They will not be involved as much as you were thinking.  After all this time it may be better to accept the visit for the day on the way back and start rebuilding the relationship.  This would give you time to assess the relationship and see what input you dad gives over the following year or two.  It may be that he simply isn't interested.

Yes this is hurtful.  Its ok to be hurt by this.[/quote]

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