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[quote=Anonymous]Since you're talking about basic boundary setting, I think what stops a lot of people from speaking up is that we grew up with something a certain way and thought that's just how it is. Then you grow up and realize it doesn't have to be that way. But it's awkward to speak up when it's something that's been going on forever, or slowly evolves past a breaking point. DCUM made me realize I can visit and stay somewhere else ("I DCUM'd my family" is me). The problem snuck up on me as my generation started having kids and the family grew. Dynamics change, necessities change, and the older generation wants it to be the way it always was. So do I, on some level. But the growing families mean that that house just doesn't work for us anymore. It's been a tight squeeze for a while, but I didn't want to ruffle feathers. I finally spoke up because pandemic life has pushed me to my breaking point and I realized I needed to take care of my own needs, so I spoke up. [/quote]
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