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[quote=Anonymous]I wasn't one of those people that cooohed and ahhhed over kids before I had them.  I would have been more  likely to rush over to someone with a cute puppy than someone with a baby.  I also was a lot older than my siblings and vowed if I ever changed another diaper it would be for my own child .... I had enough pseudo responsibility being the older sister.

All that said, I got the traveling out of my system before kids.  I got a good start on my career and was able to work out of town and work crazy hours to meet deadlines without any other responsibilities.   I think it put me in a place to find the more family friendly job and start a nest egg.  I think my life with kids would not be quite as rosy if I had them earlier in my career.  Kids are expensive and saving money up isn't quite the snap it used to be.

All that said, I couldn't imagine my life without my children.  I've learned more about myself in trying to teach my kids about the way life works. I've become closer to my parents relating to them in a way I couldn't before.   I've had to confront my childhood ... and the emotions beneath the happy go lucky facade.   There is an inner peace I've gotten and ability to let go of past hurts because I know I have this chance to make the decisions I wish my parents had made.  At the same time, I am reconnecting with some of the happy moments I had as a kid and love living it again when I play with my kids.  I've had to learn to somehow laugh at least after the fact at some of the things that are kids being kids but at the time are exasperating ( really, we are going to cry because you got the green ballon and not pink ... This is why I hate balloons and clowns).  I'm happy for all the experiences I've had because I don't have to wonder what if or think about the grass being greener.  I'm really happy to be in a position that I have the job flexibility (more vacation time and sick time, higher salary) so having kids didn't put a strain other than the juggling of schedules.  The bottom line was I was ready by the time I decided to try to have kids.[/quote]

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