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Uh, no, beginning of story.

Universal truth: just because I'm physically bigger and stronger than my child does not mean I should physically wrestle them into clothes against their will every day.

I mean, my DH is bigger and stronger than I am -- if he wants me to do something that I don't want to do, does he get to physically force me to do it?

You think you've figured something out but you're actually just a crappy parent.[/quote]

NP- wow, this is just crazy. Yes, you as the parent have to wrestle your willful child to do something that is imperative for their health/safety/wellbeing. Wearing clean clothes is one of those things, as is brushing teeth, taking antibiotics, sitting in their carseat. Good Lord, I shudder to think of what flies in your house. [/quote]

+1 I don't get it - what do you do when they have a dirty diaper they don't want to change, or they won't get in the car seat? You just have to force them to do it. I think if you just do it calmly and don't make it into a game and just show them there's no point in struggling, it stops becoming such a big deal. The wife and husband example is not applicable because you are both adults. A child is a child and you have to take care of them.[/quote]

You have to convince them to do it. Listen, if you had a relatively compliant child you may never have had to go through this. Some of us did not have one of those kids. I had to learn how to convince my child to get dressed, to brush her teeth or let me brush them, to take medicine, to get in the car seat. Yes, convince. And I did, and she got dressed every day and we made it to school on time and everything. And she is a fully functional and still very independent minded kid now, who dresses herself and brushes her teeth and has good sleep habits and does homework and plays independently and all that good stuff. She was not a child who you could just physically dress against her will, that was not an option for me as a parent unless I wanted to break her arms or have my household devolved into a full blown war zone every morning. You could not force her to do anything -- eat, get dressed, listen, nothing. Everything was a conversation, and still is. She's going to make a phenomenal litigator or hostage negotiator or talent wrangler or whatever someday.

Kid #2? Would allow us to dress him rag doll style while he ate breakfast, didn't care what he wore. Was never an issue.

This is what happens when you assume your experience with one or two of your own children is universal and that what you did will magically work on all children because you are some kind of parenting savant. You literally have no idea what you are talking about. I'm glad you figured out how to work with your kids, and that physically forcing them to get dressed worked okay for you. Good. That doesn't work for all kids. [/quote]

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