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[quote=Anonymous]Yes. My marriage with my XH was a foundational relationship. I had low self esteem as a child and teen that I brought with me to the marriage. XH monopolized on that trait. Over the course of our 15-year marriage, he would slam my professional accomplishments, call me fat and ugly, tell me I was a horrible mother. Like a frog in a boiling pot of water, it just became my normal. I genuinely thought I was ugly and worked tirelessly to please my bosses, kids, and other parents. Mostly because I thought the regular me was not good enough. It has taken so much therapy after my divorce to see what had happened to me. Even now that I’m remarried, I still don’t always see it. My children still treat me poorly at times, and it really infuriates DH. He points out the behavior, and then will comment they watched this happen to me for so many years, it’s how they view me. [/quote]
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