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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think it seems that weird.  Your mother is coming to see friends.  She may not know how tired she will feel or whether she will feel like a visit or how long the visit with friends will go for so she may be leaving it to the last moment to call you.  She isn't telling you about the trip as its to visit friends mainly.  I think that's great for her.  Or perhaps you have told her to visit anytime so she feels like she doesn't need a set appointment with you.

As for your MIL, it sounds like she has a stylist she loves and possibly other errands she runs.  You could always say to her that next time she is in town to come and visit and then leave it with her.  However a 3 hour drive to get there, 2-3 hours if she is getting a cut, colour and the works and then a 3 hour drive back, she probably doesn't want the day dragged out any longer.  It would be tiring.

I don't see any of this being weird.  I'm sure your MIL would love a stylist closer to home but a good one is sometimes hard to find.[/quote]

NP.

Man, IDK.

The MIL scenario is semi-plausible/understandable BUT I still find it odd she wouldn't at least mention she'd be in town ahead of time so that OP and kids could possibly meet her for coffee/lunch in Big City. I'm thinking that vs visiting her, since that might add another hour r/t to her day full of driving. They might not be able to meet her, but it's a nice gesture? I guess I get that MIL has a whole day planned out-- for relaxation?-- and maybe she doesn't even want to see anyone. But I can't imagine my MIL or mother doing this, and my mom is a lower-energy introvert.

OTOH, OP's mother is there all weekend/overnight, and doesn't stay with OP (okay) and treats the kids like an afterthought. That's even stranger to me.  [/quote]

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