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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a rough time with my kids when they were little like yours, I probably walked around just like your husband. 
As soon as I could start having conversations with the kids it all kind of turned around for me and now being with them is a joy.
You sound like a really nice woman but  You need to stop making him happy by sacrificing what you need and want, it’s only going to lead to distance, frustration and the eventual collapse of intimacy and then your marriage. 
Ask me how I know.    [/quote]

+1 I don't think I was quite that bad but I definitely had very bad PPA and probably some degree of PPD. And DH would openly talk about how he couldn't go out with friends anymore and it enraged me because that wasn't even on my radar as a possibility with a very difficult baby who wanted to nurse around the clock and wouldn't sleep unless held.  I love my kids but I'm not a baby person and I was so, so happy when the older one started talking ... younger was a far easier baby and kid overall.

Your DH sounds like he could be depressed. Depression in men can manifest differently than in women. I'd encourage him to go see a doctor and just talk about the possibility.

And either way, make sure you are both getting a chunk of time once a week for yourselves. 2 hours on a Saturday or something as a break from the baby. If you are willing to leave the kid with a sitter, also schedule a second 2 hour chunk where you both go out to lunch or dinner or otherwise spend time together. [/quote]

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