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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you need to reframe your complaints. Make sure they’re about fussy baby and not breastfeeding.

My Dh LOVES breastfeeding. It means he never has to get up in the middle of the night to feed. He loves how easy it is to travel without bottles or formula. And he loves that she calms down easily by nursing. In reality he didn’t care whether I breastfed or not, but there were a lot of benefits in it for him. So start telling your Dh all about husbands who have to take every other shift at night instead of you just nursing quickly and then plopping baby in bassinet. (And I’m pro formula too, so don’t take this paragraph the wrong way)[/quote]

OP here. My baby doesn’t nurse quick. Every feeding takes 45 minutes. [/quote]

How old is your baby? I think you need to give yourself an end date for breastfeeding. Like if it’s not working by 6 weeks I will start formula and be happy about it. Don’t make yourself miserable. Triple feeding should go on for more than a week in my opinion. It’s hard and can easily make you not like the baby and hate breastfeeding.

Be kind to yourself. It’s okay if breastfeeding isn’t for you. You have a baby! And breastfeeding is such a tiny part of an amazing baby experience. Don’t let it ruin these first few weeks. [/quote]

OP here. He’s 4.5 weeks old. I’m determined to breastfeed and want to go for at least a year. [/quote]

If you really want to, then make it happen and don't complain to your dh.  My first baby was not a good latcher. I had to push her lower jaw down to get the latch we needed every time. And then one day it clicked. I was absolutely determined to make it work and saw quite a few lactation consultants. Kelly mom is a good resource. Went on the breastfeed 3 babies for 18 months each. Second and third babies were a breeze. I never bottlefed. Some babies who aren't good at nursing will not switch back and forth, so triple feeding might mean your baby wants the bottle. When I triple fed it meant I didn't have enough supply for the baby. My body was only going to have a certain number of letdowns and if I pumped them all, baby couldn't make a letdown happen.

The only thing I'd caution you about is if the baby isn't gaining weight.

Can you say more about what's wrong with breastfeeding? Just bad latch? Low weight baby?[/quote]

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