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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been the recipient of a slow fade a couple of times and I can tell you it's very hurtful. I didn't do anything wrong. I was always polite and friendly to the person in question, and I was always the one initiating making contact and making plans and generally being proactive.

Today I found out that  DH and I have not been invited to a friend's birthday party while everyone else in our friendship circle has received an invitation. Strange, given that I always invite this woman to my own birthday parties.

We are not young anymore. We're in our early/mid 50s to early 60s. DH and I have always been polite and courteous to people here. We haven't done anything wrong.

If you decide to let go of people, please think of how hurtful it feels for the other to be ghosted without a reasonable explanation.[/quote]

Slight derail.  What exactly would you want to hear that you would accept— that wouldn’t feel or be cruel? 
I’m asking in part because I have a childhood acquaintance who did something that I viewed as unforgivable— and I told her this.  Despite my directness, she continues to reach out and I try to be polite — both because we share lifelong friends, and because she genuinely doesn’t seem to get it.  So what sorts of explanations are reasonable, effective, and not cruel?[/quote]

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