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[quote=Anonymous]You need to get very clear with yourself that you are not responsible for her actions. You cannot make her use drugs or hurt herself, anymore than you can stop her from these things. She is responsible for her actions. I would work on thinking about this whenever you interact with her or even think about her. Your therapist can help you with this. Just find a simple way to remind yourself "she is responsible for her actions." Once you really own that idea as the truth, it will be easier to set boundaries and back out of the relationship. And by easier, I don't mean easy. She may still try to guilt trip you or threaten you with harm to herself as you withdraw or set clear boundaries. But if you remind yourself that you cannot be responsible for her actions (and remind her of this as well, when necessary), it can give you the strength to pull back.[/quote]
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