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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS didn't make the HS soccer team this summer. He was devastated and it was the first time I'd seen him cry in a long time. We let him experience his sadness. Acknowledged his disappointment. After a few days, we asked how he thought he could improve and what he would like to do to increase his skill (if he was interested.) We were willing to look into trainings/clinics/etc. In the end, he decided not to pursue the team again next year and just be content playing on a recreational team where he gets a lot of play time.[/quote]

Poor guy.  I found my kids handled really well when they could acknowledge and accept the talent was high and the kids on the team deserved it.  Yes.  That happened.  They were on a second team and could rightly say at the time--that kids above deserved it--or were equivalent in skill, etc.

The hardest, as it is for everyone, is when other things are in play.  At our HS there is a LOT of nepotism.  We have 4 sets of twins, two on each team.  When the older sibling is a star, the younger siblings are granted a spot even when they are not good--at all.  A lot of it has to do with the way the parents of those kids sidle up to the Coach, the existing relationships.  It generally isn't a problem unless your kid plays the same position.  Then, just forget it.

We deal with that with: life isn't fair.  What else do you want to do? Play Club soccer, try a new sport, etc. But, yeah it's hard to see our kids get upset--but ultimately it will build resilience for what will come in life later on.[/quote]

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