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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Might be a supervision issue.

No teething necklace in the daycare setting! If they permit them, then leave.

Lovie at school creates issues. When just the daycare toys, they the toys are for everyone to share. A lovie out during free time creates a "MINE!" issue and something to be extra territorial about.

Bribes after school are too disconnected from the event from the day for her to make a connection to and learn from.

It environment may not be the right fir for her.[b]

Teach her to yell "NO!" or teach her to ROAR when frustrated. This provides a loud heads up for the providers to get to her quick before she bites. [/b]

As she has a known concern of biting they really should have her within arms reach the majority of the time. [/quote]

The bolded is very smart, and I agree, I would love for them to be keeping her within arm's length. Solid points here.

I thought the same about the bribing, especially at such a young age, but [b]every time we mention "no biting," she says the name of the snack, and her teacher reminds her during the day, so I had some hope that she was making the connection[/b].[/quote]

She's capable of understanding and knowing the connection between the biting and the bribe. What she's NOT capable of is the impulse control required in the moment to stop herself from biting. So then it becomes a cycle of failing to get the bribe - and its meaningless. You're rewarding her (on days with no biting) for not having a trigger, when its out of her control.

On the other hand, if her teachers can stay on her for a few days and teach the NO or the Roaring, then they can immediately (with a bribe you leave at school, or with a toy that is held aside for this specific purpose) reward her for using a different mechanism to voice displeasure. She still won't get it everytime - the same lack of impulse control applies! - but its a much more positive incentive.[/quote]

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